How To Become a Sugar Baby


Last Updated: May 1, 2024

Sugar Baby

Wondering how to become a sugar baby? You’re in the right place! We’re enthusiastic about the exciting, growing world of sugaring, and we know that you’re going to have a blast meeting new people and making amazing memories with the right match.

We also know, of course, that getting started can be intimidating, and there are some sugar baby rules, so the more you know about what to expect and how to make the most out of your sugar relationships, the better overall experience you’re going to have. So, let’s cover the basics and get you ready for the bowl—that’s what we call the world of sugar dating!

Why do you want to become a sugar baby?


One of the first things that you should do before diving into sugar daddy dating is to ask yourself: Why?

What about this style of dating is interesting to you? What are you hoping to get out of it? Getting to the root of why you’re looking for a relationship will help when you’re putting together your online profile and starting to chat with potential partners.

This can be something of an awkward experience for newcomers. After all, in traditional dating, it’s not common to directly say what you want to get out of the relationship. But, sugar dating is built on honesty and openness. Your partner is going to have a list of their own expectations that they’ll propose to you. So, you should be specific about what you want as well.

To get a clearer picture of what we mean, here are a few reasons why some people decide to become sugar babies:

  • They want to experience a side of their city that they would otherwise not have access to
  • They’re interested in meeting a wide net of people who could help them advance their career
  • They are looking for mentorship
  • They like the idea of being spoiled with gifts and attention
  • They love travel

Your reason for being interested in sugar dating might be on this list, or you might have your own reasons. Whatever the case may be, make sure you nail down your “why” before you make your online profile.

What expectations are common for sugar babies?


One of the wonderful things about sugar dating is that you don’t have to fit into any mold that isn’t right for you. If you don’t want to do something specific, you can find a sugar daddy who is on the same page.

Still, you might wonder, what are other sugar babies doing for their partners? Here is a rundown of some things that, if you’re able and willing, may be appealing to a sugar daddy:

  • Going on lavish dates. This may not seem like something that you’re offering your sugar daddy. After all, they’re the ones taking you on a date. But, the truth is, they’ll expect an engaging, relaxing time with you. So, it’s not all about sitting back and being passive. You’ll want to help carry the conversation and make sure that your date is having an enjoyable time.
  • Attending work activities or networking events. Perhaps this isn't your version of fun, but your partner may appreciate having someone with them to liven up their work engagements.
  • Being a plus one for charity events like galas. Always wanted to get dressed up and go to a fancy evening soiree? If your sugar partner is a donor to a charity, they may want to take you as their plus one
  • Maintaining light and fun banter between dates. Sugar daddies tend to be busy people, often in stressful work environments. They may enjoy receiving fun, flirty messages whenever they have a chance to check their phone or unwind at the end of the day.
  • Offering a listening ear. If you’re a good listener, a platonic sugar relationship might be ideal for you. You’ll be tasked with holding space for your partner to share their emotions and opinions, which can be a powerful way to connect with someone.
  • Going on trips or romantic getaways. To be sure, this isn’t something that your sugar daddy is going to ask for right away. But, they may propose that you travel together once you’ve gotten to know each other a little bit. If you’re open and able to do it, this can be an adventurous and romantic part of sugar dating.

Of course, this is a very basic list of all of the things that a sugar baby might offer as part of a reciprocal arrangement. You might find a potential partner asking for different things. And you can always decide for yourself what kind of relationship is most appealing to you.

How can you set boundaries with a partner?

Something to stress about sugar relationships is that they are mutual. Each person is offering something unique and valuable to the arrangement. So, you should always feel comfortable negotiating the best terms for yourself. Sometimes this means learning to set clear boundaries that will prevent you from giving more than you’re getting. Here are a few ways to do that:

  • Be clear about your expectations. The best kind of negotiation is preemptive negotiation. In fact, if you can include key details in your profile bio about where your boundaries are, it may prevent you from having to define them later on. For instance, if one of your boundaries is that you don’t want to be exclusive, you should include NSA, or no strings attached, in your bio. That way, you’ll attract partners who are comfortable with that boundary.
  • Consider putting your expectations in writing. Okay, we don’t mean printing out some kind of legal document that you’ll ask your sugar daddy to sign. Instead, you might discuss your expectations in your online chats with your sugar daddy. That way, if either of you are unclear on the terms of your agreement later on, you have the receipts to refer to.
  • Remember that the worst they can say is no. You’ve probably heard this in other circumstances, but it works well in the world of sugaring too. If there’s a boundary that you want to set for yourself, you shouldn’t feel shy about stating it. After all, the worst they can say is no and you can spend your time finding someone who is better for you.
  • Be intentional about second chances. Let’s say that you set a boundary that you don’t want your sugar daddy to call you after 10 pm but they do it anyway. What should you do? The fact is, you’ll have to decide for yourself how you want to deal with a partner disregarding a boundary you have set. Is it something that’s grounds for ending the relationship? Or are you willing to give them another chance? No matter how you decide to move forward, just make sure that you’re doing it intentionally. And don’t be afraid to remind your partner of the boundaries you’ve discussed.

Is it safe to be a sugar baby?

One of the common things that new sugar babies want to know is, how safe is sugar dating, really? In reality, as long as you practice good sense, have a clear understanding of what you want in a sugar relationship, and stick to your boundaries, you can have a positive experience. After all, in terms of safety, sugar dating is not fundamentally different from any other form of online dating.

Still unsure? Take a look at these tips on how to become a sugar baby as safely as possible:

  • Stick with reputable websites. It’s always best to avoid sugar daddies who try to contact you through social media as these are likely scammers. Instead, use a sugar daddy dating site with vetted profiles.
  • Do some due diligence. You can tell that a sugar daddy profile is real by taking a close look at their pictures and bio. Do they have pictures that show them in a variety of settings? Can you do a reverse image search to make sure they’re really who they say they are? And, does their conversation with you feel natural? These will all help you determine whether you’re talking to a real sugar daddy or an imposter.
  • Always meet in a public place. Once you’ve established trust with a sugar daddy from a few in-person dates, you can decide whether you want to take your dates to a more intimate setting. But before then, always meet them in public.
  • Tell someone where you’re going. Just like you would on a traditional date, it’s a good habit to let a close friend know where you’re going. They should expect to receive an update from you when you’re safely at home.
  • Listen to your intuition. If something is telling you that this situation is not right, don’t feel bad about taking a step back. There are so many sugar daddies out there who can give you the safe, satisfying experience you’re looking for. It’s okay to weed out the ones who don’t.

You can become a sugar baby when you’re ready!

In this guide, we’ve talked about some of the common questions that new sugar babies have before they set up their online profiles. But the truth is, the best way to learn more about the exciting world of sugaring is to just get started by creating a successful sugar baby profile. Whenever you’re ready, there’s an ocean of sugar daddies who can’t wait to meet you!

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