Top Tips for a First Sugar Daddy Date


Last Updated: March 12, 2024

Dating Tips

You are buzzing with excitement for your first sugar daddy date, but how can you make sure that it’s everything you’re hoping for? Well, while you can’t predict or control everything about your first date, there are some things that you can do to set yourself up for a successful, fun evening.

In this article, we’ll give you our top 9 tips for a sugar daddy date that will leave you both wanting more!

1: Make sure this person is interested in the same thing you are

Maybe you’ve been chatting with someone who is eager to meet you in person. But, just because you have chemistry online doesn’t mean that you’re looking for the same kind of arrangement. And you don’t want to get to the end of a first date only to realize that you’re looking for an NSA arrangement while they’re looking for something platonic.

Save yourself and the other person time by clarifying what kind of sugar daddy relationship you’re looking for. If you’re looking for the same thing, then it’s time to start planning your first date!

2: Narrow down which area or neighborhood you’d like to meet

In many cities, figuring out the date location is essentially your first negotiation! Here are a few considerations that will help you find the best location:

  • How far is it from where you live? A sugar daddy will often suggest a location in their own neighborhood because it’s where they feel most comfortable and where the best restaurants are. And in most cases, a sugar daddy will pay for transportation for you to get there. But if you live very far away, will you be willing to sit in traffic? Will you have enough time to get there after work? Maybe there’s another location that is accessible for both of you.
  • Is the area lively? Maybe your date found a really nice gallery opening, but it’s in a part of town that you know is deserted at night. This isn’t an ideal place for your first sugar date. Instead, you want to meet somewhere public. It’ll keep you safe and be more entertaining.
  • Could you get yourself home in case something goes wrong? It doesn’t happen often, but every once in a while, a date will need to end early. Whether it’s because your potential partner had an emergency or something soured between the two of you, you’ll need to know that you can get yourself home safely in this rare scenario. Always show up to your date with contact info for a friend who can come get you, enough battery in your phone to order a rideshare, or extra cash for a cab.

3: Think about and suggest some fun date ideas


If you’re a sugar daddy, you will be expected to arrange the details of the first date. And of course, reserving a table at your favorite restaurant is always a good option. But, if you’re looking to make your first date unique, consider getting to know your partner’s interests ahead of time. Here are a few ideas:

  • Do they love animals? If you’ve chatted with a potential date about their love for animals, they might enjoy an activity like horseback riding or an after-hours tour of their favorite aquarium.
  • Are they adventurous? Sugar babies who love adventure may be attracted to the idea of doing something outside of their comfort zone, like learning how to drive a sports car on a closed track or going on a helicopter city tour.
  • Do you enjoy the same sport? If you get the feeling that your date is athletic, that could make for a memorable first date. You might be able to take them to your country club for some tennis or plan a road cycling trip that ends at a romantic lunch spot.

If you’re not sure whether your date will be on board with your out-of-the-box ideas, don’t be afraid to ask! After all, you want to maintain a sense of intrigue, but you also want them to be prepared and excited about the activities you have planned.

4: Don’t feel bad about doing some due diligence

Any time that we’re talking about online dating, it’s important to remember safety. You don’t have to feel bad about taking a few precautions to make sure that this is a real first date and not a scam, by:

  • Making sure their profile is legitimate. To begin, you can lower the risk of spam accounts by sticking to trusted sugar daddy date sites like Other social media platforms tend to be hotbeds for scammers. You can also do a reverse image search to make sure that the photos you see aren’t being pulled from the internet.
  • Keeping an eye out for red flags. Any time that a stranger on the internet asks for money, login info, or any kind of personal information, take it as a red flag.
  • Being firm about meeting in a public place. If a sugar baby or sugar daddy is insisting on meeting you in a private place, don’t give in to the pressure. A first date should always take place in public so that you can get to know your potential partner safely.
  • Telling someone you trust about your upcoming date. Tell your friend, your neighbor, your coworker—it really doesn’t matter who it is as long as someone knows where you are. They should expect you to check in with them once the date is over. Chances are, you’ll want to talk about how amazing your first sugar daddy date was!

5: Put your date in your calendar

If you have a few different dates lined up, you’re going to need to stay organized. Standing a potential partner up on the first date is a sure way to lose your chances with them, so don’t forget to put a reminder in your phone!

6: Give yourself plenty of time to get ready


No matter what kind of sugar daddy relationship you’re looking for, you always want to show up to your first meeting looking your best. This will send the message to your potential partner that you’re serious about sugaring while also leaving them wanting more! Plus, who wouldn’t be flattered to see that their date took the time to look special just for them?

7: Be on time

Part of why we suggest giving yourself plenty of time to get ready is that it will prevent you from rushing out the door and being late for your first date. Both sugar daddies and sugar babies tend to be busy, ambitious people, so they’re not going to be happy having to wait around for their date to show up. What’s more, if your partner has arranged transportation for you, they’re going to expect that you don’t leave a driver waiting for too long.

That being said, of course, sometimes life gets in the way! If you think you’re going to be late, let your date know as soon as possible and tell them when you expect to arrive. If it’s very late, they may suggest rescheduling.

8: Stay present

Once you’re face-to-face with your potential sugar partner, that’s when the real fun and excitement begins! You might even have first-date jitters, that’s perfectly normal. Now is the time to really lean into the experience and learn more about your date. Here are a few ways that you can stay present at the moment:

  • Mute your notifications. Putting the phone down for long periods of time can be a challenge for most of us! But, it can really help you focus on getting to know your date. Set yourself up for success by turning off your notifications and putting your phone away. Your potential partner will appreciate the gesture!
  • Ask follow-up questions. It may seem obvious, but actively engaging in the conversation is something that will bring your sugar daddy date to the next level. To be sure, your date will want to hear interesting things about you, but before you dive into your own anecdotes, make sure to ask a few follow-up questions about their stories.
  • Keep an open mind. Try to remember that no matter if you’re dating someone who has been in the sugar dating scene for a while or they’re brand new to “the bowl,” everyone can get nervous when first meeting someone. If you don’t feel like you’re clicking right away, consider giving it a little more time. This could be the perfect sugar match if you give them a chance.

And most important of all, relax! If you can let go of expectations and stay in the present moment, you’re bound to have a good time. And hey, if this first date doesn’t work out, there is a whole sea of sugar partners waiting to meet you.

9: Follow up

After meeting your sugar match for the first time, it will be up to you whether you decide to pursue a relationship or keep looking. Keep in mind that sugar dating is all about honesty, so you don’t have to worry about playing any traditional romance games like waiting for the other person to follow up. In other words, if you want to see them again, don’t wait! The world of sugaring moves fast, and you don’t want to be left behind.

You’re ready for your first sugar daddy date!

Are you nervous? Excited? Unsure of what to expect? At the end of the day, the only way to become more confident about going on a first sugar daddy date is to get out there and try it for yourself!

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